Personally I enjoy being single and will stay that way!So far in my life marriage has only lead to two things: children and divorce.I have bumped into some succcesful couples but they almost all old folks!In this little world of ours you have to be on your tippy-toes!Honesty is the key!You must both listen to your brain and your heart!Forget one of the two and you could find yourself in a sticky situation or very unhappy!Marriage and family can be a beautiful and brilliant thing if you play your cards right!

Well, I am confused! Marrying is on my to do list but with a ton of other things like purchasing a nother home, buying another car and getting my kid thru private school! I am dating a man that is always around (every day) and when I ran off my to do list that including marriage he stated he needs maybe a year or two determine if the person is marriage material. Job probations arent that long! LOL.

i am young and would absolutely love to marry my boyfriend of one year, but we're not financially able to support ourselves, so we have to be realistic about our future. unfortunately, i'm not much of a realist and find myself very impatient to start our lives together. some say "don't rush, it's a mistake," but someone else must have told them that once. people forget that every generation can't experience by hearing about OTHER people's stories. we have to endure it all ourselves. besides, it may turn out to be the best thing you've ever done. therefore, i'm going to do what my grandparents did (who are still going strong) and dive right into life. we're going to marry young. they say i'm another statistic going down the road to divorce, but just because others can't make it work doesn't mean i can't. life is short and i want to start living! tell him you want to marry him or it's being unfair to the both of you. if he doesn't want to, he may be worth the wait. if not, find someoen else with the same goals. don't treat marriage like the next step, treat it like the wonderful gift it could be.

You need to be on the same page as each other. If you're not then you are just wasting your time. My boyfriend and I recently had a conversation and while I was hesitant about bringing up marriage. I asked him what kind of relationship he thinks we have and he said he wants to see our relationship last many years. After asking more questions and finding out that his many years means as many years as we have together before one of us dies, I realized that was a good enough answer for me right now and that there is a good chance a proposal is in the future...but at least now I know where he stands as well. Life is too short to waste it on the wrong person.

I enjoyed the article. I've been divorced for 18 months and yea...would like to get remarried one day but I'm just not financially stable or emotionally either to venture down that path again. I am looking for dating and if the Right One comes along, wuld like a long courtship while I get everything fine tuned. I have been married twice and am setting my bar a lot higher for the 3rd and final one. So no need to rush into anything hastily.

I am a widowed professional w/ twin girls. My "boyfriend" of 19 months has been divorced for over 10 years and shares custody of twin boys. The "Brady Bunch" comes to mind. Everything has been really good and we love each other immensely. My goal has been to remarry and create a blended/extended family with someone. However, after some discussion, it does not appear that my guy shares the same vision. He has suggested living together at some point....this is not my idea of commitment. I realize his first marriage ended in divorce, but that shouldn't prevent someone from walking down the aisle again if you've met the right person that you know you want to spend the rest of your life with. He is nervous to the point of being phobic about it. I really thought we'd end up together, but now it does not appear that way. I refuse to compromise myself and live with someone when I know that is a death sentence for the relationship. I will end up resenting him and I can almost guarantee that the relationship will not thrive in that type of situation. I feel like I must end our relationship and find someone who shares my vision of marriage and family. Does this make sense?

Dear widowed professional with twin girls, I am a single currently unemployed mother with boy/girl twins. Their father is the love of my life and I have never lived with him because he did not want to choose the marriage route. Our twins are now 14 years old, and he still hasn't married me. I am holding my ground, and I think I am going to win the battle of the sexes. He has finally admitted that marriage is the best solution, and that living together never works out.....My deepest advice to you is to marry someone you truly love. good luck! It will be worth the wait, and probably the only way marriage should be!!

I'm a girl that will never get married. Just can't see that happening, because it's just not the 'wife' type. I'll never be able to be in a long-term realtionship like that (unless he's my match sent from heaven) since I would just get tired of the same guy all the time. oh well, some girls just aren't born to conform to society's ideals.

I waited until I was 52 to marry two yrs later she died a wrongful death at hands of a doctor,she was ten years my jr. I met another woman she became pregnant with my first child, said she wanted to marry but she never followed through two years went by,she had my second child,six months later she told me ,thanks for having a vasectomy I wanted more children. She told me thanks for the children and she left with them. I have been alone for 11 years now,I'm not looking for a mate however if the right person came along I'd still risk marrage.

IT,S A BATTLE OF THE MINDS!! make sure the other person has an EDUCATION! so the other person knows what the other is talking about! (yup!- yup!)