Dating Advice: 10 Things You Don't Know About Liars
Your guy probably doesn't realize how much info he's spilling just sitting there -- but you will, after you read these insider dating tips.
By dating writer Ky Henderson for Cosmopolitan Updated: Jun 23, 2009
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1. Their Legs Say a LotIf
a guy wraps his legs around the legs of a chair or stool, it's an
indication that he's purposefully holding something back -- like the
truth.
2. They'll Give You PauseAsk
a simple, straightforward question -- say, "Where were you last night?"
or even "Are you cheating on me?" If there's a long pause or he repeats
the question before answering, that's trouble.
More dating articles from Cosmopolitan:3. Their Thumbs Betray DiscomfortIf
he's standing with his entire hand in his pockets -- in other words,
his thumbs are in, not out -- he's feeling nervous. It's up to you to
figure out why.
4. They Can't Lie in ReverseIf
someone is telling a story you find fishy, ask questions that force him
to relate events in a different order. While a person who's concocted a
false story can tell it in a,b,c,d order, he'll often find it almost
impossible to tell it in d,c,b,a order.
5. They'll Shrug at Odd TimesIf
he's saying something definitive -- "I was with my buddies last night!"
-- while shrugging one or both shoulders, watch out. The movement
indicates that he's subconsciously remaining uncommitted to what he's
saying.
6. They Have Big ButsListen
for phrases like this: "I know you'll think this is strange, but..." or
"You're not going to believe this, but..." Chances are, whatever comes
next is a lie.
7. Their Tongues Don't LieIf
you ask someone a question and he momentarily flicks out his tongue or
licks his lips before answering, he believes he's about to get away
with something.
8. They'll Hold Your GazeSometimes
a liar is so intent on proving his sincerity he'll stare into your eyes
for an uncomfortably long time, trying to prove to you that he has
nothing to hide.
9. They Can't AdaptJust
as a liar is unable to reverse the order of events in a falsehood, he
also has trouble adjusting when one component is disproven. So if
you're able to irrefutably call him out on one facet of a lie and he
still refuses to change his story, you can be pretty sure that the rest
is phony info too.
10. They'll Give You a HandA
liar doesn't want you to examine what he says too closely. And so he'll
often unconsciously bring a hand to his face -- to scratch a nose, or
rub an eye, or stroke a chin -- in an attempt to "block" the words as
they're coming out of his mouth.
Source: Body-language expert Janine Driver
Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc.
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