I just got online the first of this year after a devastating divorce. I very docile at first. I noticed that as I started to get responses and dates that I did not like my profile began to evolve. Initally, in Jan '07 I had one picture and was very non-descript in what I was looking for or information about myself. As I started to date and get the confidence mid April I felt comfortable about being more decisive and recognizing that it is okay if my profile deters some and in fact that is even more than okay. The wording of my profile has attracted more serious minded individuals who recognize I am not an out to find a willing and able sex stud. I can tell if someone has read my profile and I am no longer afraid to block someone that gives me a weird feeling or simply send a "thank you have a good day" response to someone who did not peek my interest. I have learned it does pay to be polite, would it not be the most uncomfortable situation to have the new director of your department come into to the office to introduce themself and find out it was the guy your were unmercifully rude to online... good luck to all of us that seek to find Mr./Ms. Right

this about drama king, example if the men make her exhausted but the same men land a hand to the women to help her in many ways, are he still been call drama KING?

how do you make other woman aware of a guy to look out for online?

These are good tips. Too many women don't trust their gut and are talked out of listening to it.

I have just started using an online dating service recently. Right off the bat I met a guy that seemed like a nice enough guy, a little down and sad, but nice. Before I knew it he was talking about moving in to take care of me and he was going to cancel all his dating services because he had found the woman of his dreams. All of this in less than 4 hours online. It didn't take me long to get fed up with his "poor me, I don't have anyone" and "why would you need to know someone very long to sleep with them" talk . I wonder how many men are on line trying to tug at the soft place in a womans' heart and harranging them for having morals and good sense. People seem to lose all their inhabitions online.

Hi there, After reading the article, it hit all the main points i am experiencng BUT....i hve a question; what if the guy i met online are on both yes and no on the points, what should i do? For example the heading: stay away from drama king. Well the guy does act the way writting but sometimes don't or 50% no and 50% yes. So what should i do?

So far, the men you have mentioned? They have all contacted me. I'm so ready to stay single. And happy.

I have been very successful online and in meeting men so far over a two year period. I started during a separation and am now divorced. I am so happy that I started early with this because now I am that much more informed and have grown through my experiences. I only contact and date people who seem "normal" for my lifestyle and education level. It makes dating a lot easier to connect with anyone who matches me well. Rude, crude, weird or overly zealous guys are DELETED PRONTO.

I met a wonderful man "on line" three years ago. Today I am happily married, and he is still the wonderful man I met then!! Good luck girls! you can do it!! Roxana

get a live and go outside and find a date, otherwise continue using your own hand to find that perfect date.