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10 Online Tips for College Students

Create a profile that attracts a great match

By Meredith Wilkie Updated: May 22, 2009
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If balancing college exams with a job and social excursions has taken a toll on your love life, breathe a sigh of relief, because help has arrived.
With online dating being more popular than ever, an accurate yet stimulating profile is necessary for you, the college student, to find a date.
Because you're busy writing 10-page papers and working to pay the bills, Kristen Peairs, an Internet dating coach in Columbus, Ohio, has compiled a list of 10 tips for creating a profile that attracts a great match.
1. Write a brief headline that makes an impact and relates to you.
The notion that "Single and looking for you" is an acceptable headline must be stomped. "It doesn't tell anyone anything about your personality or your activities," Peairs says. We're all well aware you're on a dating site because you're (most likely) single and "looking." Think of something more creative to set you apart from the competition. Try "Wow!" or "Guess what?" Peairs suggests, "It just may make someone curious enough to look twice."
“Use open-ended statements or questions to draw the reader's attention.”
Use open-ended statements or questions to draw the reader's attention.
2. Tie your profile to your headline.
"If you asked a question, answer it. If you declared an action, say how you're doing it in your life," Peairs says. For example, if your headline is "What's new?" the first sentence of your profile might say, "My life has changed completely and for the better -- I've started college, found my own place, and landed a cool job!"
3. Post pictures emphasizing the activities or interests you most want to have in common with a potential date.
If you're into cars, sports or partying, convey those interests with your photos. It's also important to use seasonally appropriate pictures. "
“If it is summer, post pictures of what you do and how you look during the summer”
If it is summer, post pictures of what you do and how you look during the summer," Peairs said. A clear and current headshot should be used as your primary picture. "First impressions will make or break you. This shot is very important and it's worth having a friend take some posed shots of you to get the best one."
4. List activities you are currently involved in.
Providing a few examples of the activities you currently participate in, such as volleyball or a book club, will paint a clearer picture of how you spend your time. However, don't hesitate to also state a few things you would like to do with the person you meet, be it skydiving or seeing the latest popular movie.
5. Discuss what you love about your profession or degree.
Talking about your degree in business is great, but it's more interesting if you explain why you chose the major and what you plan to do with it in the future. "It would be better if you said, 'Architecture is amazing -- the way I am learning to create new buildings from the ground up makes me feel like I'm creating a better world,'" says Peairs. While telling people about your college endeavors, you're also providing a clear perspective of you and your goals.
6. Focus on writing about what you do want in a person and a relationship -- instead of what you don't want.
"Avoid statements like 'I don't want anyone who plays games,'" says Peairs. These
“negative statements usually hint at your tendency to be surrounded by drama”
negative statements usually hint at your tendency to be surrounded by drama, which is something a potential partner would most likely steer clear of. "I enjoy people who are fun and easygoing" is an example of a positive statement likely to attract desired respondents.
7. Be clear about your type of desired relationship.
If you know what you want -- great! If you don't know what you want, Peairs suggests taking a look at what you're spending most of your time doing. If you are partying a lot, ask yourself if you want someone to party with. If the answer is yes, then write your profile accordingly. If your answer is no, think one step ahead to what you want. Be honest. Saying, "I've been doing the party scene for awhile and I've decided it's time to do something different. I'm thinking of getting involved with a local soccer team or Big Brothers/Sisters program" could attract another party person who also wants to clean up, or someone who already is involved in communal activities and can show you the way.
8. If you're lacking in money, time or transportation, be sure to state this in the activities section of your profile.
It's no secret that most college students are lacking in the large bank account department. However, there are ways of expressing these details without saying, "I barely have enough money to do laundry." Try a different approach to explain your lifestyle of getting by with a small amount. "Make sure you state in your profile activities that you can do with limited finances," Peairs says. "For example, 'I enjoy cooking dinners at home, playing Frisbee golf on campus, and having brief, spontaneous telephone conversations throughout the day.'"
9. Divide large paragraphs into shorter paragraphs of no more than three sentences.
How often do you skim your reading materials for the next day's class? Chances are, page-long paragraphs bore you and thus your brain never processes the material you'll need for later. Short paragraphs highlight each of your topic areas and help your reader remember what you said.
10. End your profile with an invitation.
Invite your reader to email you so the two of you can get to know each other more in depth. "An invitation inspires action, whether to contact you or to join you on a skiing expedition," says Peairs.
For more tips about writing an Internet dating profile, check out Kristen's web site leapahhacoaching.com.
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A Yahoo! Contributor
Haha. &quot;Guess What?&quot; male or female.
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not funny female
A Yahoo! Contributor
Everybody knows this stuff does not actually work because its all ACTING, not being and feeling. It is well-intentioned but its easy to see through.
A Yahoo! Contributor
Quit wasting Daddy&#39;s money looking for dates when you should be studying your lessons. You&#39;ll have plenty of time to date when you graduate and are making your own money. If you can&#39;t grasp the concept of deferred gratification, then arrange a study session with someone you are attracted to in one of your classes. Time spent working together to solve a problem will give you both a sense of acccomplishment and who knows, you may have more in common than just being in the same class.
A Yahoo! Contributor
Sad - the lengths will people go to because they are terrified of being &quot;alone&quot;.
A Yahoo! Contributor
For pete&#39;s sake! College students are young, and have plenty of time to date once they&#39;ve found stability. I am a college student, and here&#39;s what I say: I am only 21; I have the rest of my life to find love.
A Yahoo! Contributor
For pete&#39;s sake! College students are young, and have plenty of time to date once they&#39;ve found stability. I am a college student, and here&#39;s what I say: I am only 21; I have the rest of my life to find love.
A Yahoo! Contributor
to #7. I don&#39;t care if i have my whole life to date. maybe i don&#39;t want to spend my whole life dating!! what&#39;s wrong with finding someone now?
A Yahoo! Contributor
Actually, this is pretty relevant to grad school: personally, I spend up to 70 hours a week in the lab, so its rare to meet people on campus. Living on a stipend, I&#39;m dirt poor, and that won&#39;t change any time soon. Not being an undergrad and having worked a few years before returning to school, I&#39;m definitely not 21 anymore. But, I&#39;m still human, and dog-gone-it, a fellow goes mad after so much isolation. Put it all together, and online dating makes sense. Having tried it, I can say Meredith&#39;s advice is very on-target for both the college-age and non-college crowds.
Manny
happy new year evryone
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