Dating 101: Which Sex Is Pickier?
New research shows it may not be a question of gender. It may come down to this one tiny detail.
By dating editor Julie D. Andrews for YourTango.com Photo: iStockphoto.com/© Claude Dagenais Updated: Sep 18, 2009
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The
answer as to who, in the romance equation, is pickier
when it comes to selecting a mate may come down to a question of who's
doing the approaching and who's being approached, regardless of gender,
finds a new study from researchers at Northwestern
University.
The long-held belief is
that women are more selective than men when it comes to mate selection.
Why? Because females are programmed to consider the reproductive cost
of choosing a partner, in other words, what bearing and raising
children with the potential partner would be like.
A
new study challenges this view. Typically at speed-dating events,
single
men make the rounds while single women remain
seated. But when researchers at Northwestern University invited 350
undergrads to a round of four-minute speed-dates, they had women remain
seated while men rotated for eight of the events and they had men
remain seated while women rotated for the remaining seven
events.
They found that the rotating
students, regardless of gender, experienced more romantic desire and
confidence (as indicated by their responses) after each date. What's
more, after the rounds of speed dating ended and it was time for the
students to go to a website to decide if they wanted to see their
speed-date match-ups again, the students who were actively approaching
rather than waiting to be approached were more keen on seeing their
potential mates again.
The study is
aligned with embodiment research which aims to show how physical
actions can alter perceptions and how physical activity may intersect
with psychological processes without our being aware. Study results
will appear in an upcoming issue of the journal "Psychological
Science."
"Given that men generally are
expected -- and sometimes required -- to approach a potential love
interest, the implications are intriguing," said co-investigator Eli
Finkel, PhD, associate professor of social psychology in the Weinberg
College of Arts and Sciences at Northwestern, in a press release. "The
mere act of physically approaching a potential partner, versus being
approached, seemed to increase desire for that partner."
So
the likelihood of a man, or a woman, finding a potential mate on any
given outing may come down to who's most willing to make the first
move.
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