Dating Confessions: How I Knew She Was the One
Ever wonder what it is that pushes guys from "maybe" to "yes"? Here, 15 guys spill what it was that drove them to realize that girl was "the one."
By Redbook
Photo: Yuri Arcurs/iStock
Updated: May 22, 2009
Only time will tell"It
was the furthest thing from love at first sight. We
worked at the same company for more than a year without ever talking.
But fate took over one night when there was an open seat next to me at
happy hour. We talked for more than an hour before we noticed that we
had matching Winnie-the-Pooh watches -- a rare find among professionals
in Washington, DC! That was when I knew we were destined to be
together." -- Patrick Riccards, 28, Alexandria,
VA
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Plucky girl"I
met my wife just before I turned 30. Ten minutes into our initial
conversation, she asked if I'd seen the latest Rogaine commercial. The
question was more than a little impolite, since I had lost most of my
hair in my early 20s. I quickly concluded that she had either no clue
or remarkable pluck. The latter turned out to be the case. I asked her
out, and 10 months later we were married." -- Rob
DeRocker, 42, Brooklyn, NY
First came the wedding..."I
was at a wedding, and this beautiful brunette was sitting across the
aisle from me with a young girl in her lap. I assumed she was the
woman's daughter. At the time, I was single and not looking for a
serious relationship, especially with someone who had a child. But I
couldn't take my eyes off her. There was something about the way she
held the little girl in her arms and the silly way they interacted that
captivated me. After the ceremony I lost her in the crowd. By midnight
I was about to give up my search when an older woman asked if I had a
date. Nervously, I replied no. She asked if she could introduce me to
her niece, Mary, who turned out to be my mystery woman -- the girl
sitting in her lap was her cousin! Mary ended up becoming my wife."
-- Steve Rosa, 37, Rumford,
RI
Close shave"I
was intimidated by my wife when we started dating because she was older
than me and already out of school. One night she cooked a romantic
dinner and then surprised me with this aftershave I used to wear in
London that I hadn't been able to find in the States.

She went out of her way for me.
It had to be love.
She went out of her way for me.
It had to be love. I guess it didn't hurt that I
accidentally caught a glimpse of her postshower, dripping wet and in a
green silk robe!"
-- Keith Stephens, 34,
Dallas, TX Home run"I
knew Hope and I would be together forever when I turned on ESPN's
SportsCenter for the first time -- and she didn't ask me to change the
channel!" -- Jason Brown, 29, Troy,
MI
Kiss the cook"Andrea
and I were introduced by mutual friends at a midnight breakfast during
college. I was immediately struck by her beauty, intelligence, and
charm. But an entire month went by before I had the opportunity to see
her again. I went to the pub where she worked. When she gave me a free
cheeseburger and fries, that sealed it. We were married two years
later." -- David DeFusco, 37, Cheshire,
CT
Stand by your man"Three
years ago, to my surprise and dismay, I was abruptly fired from my job.
It couldn't have come at a worse time: I had just bought a home and was
worried about paying the mortgage. When I told my girlfriend, she told
me not to worry and that 'we' would get through this together. It was
at that moment that I knew I would never find anyone better. She could
have left, knowing it would be hard for me to get another job, but she
stayed, and I knew we had what it takes to make a marriage work."
-- Chris Watts, 28, Windsor,
CT
A trip... to the altar"The
first time my girlfriend went on vacation without me, I couldn't get
her off my mind the entire time she was gone -- I missed her so much.
The moment she walked in the door, I dropped down on one knee and asked
her if she would be my wife." -- Brian Shultes, 40,
Palmetto, FL
Instant fiance"I
met Deborah at a college party. Just after I introduced myself, she
informed me that a guy there was refusing to leave her alone. When this
guy reappeared later, I casually told him I was her fiance; he was
embarrassed and left us alone. Deborah was both grateful and amused,
and she introduced me as her fiance for the rest of the night. We
started dating, and although we didn't become officially engaged until
two years later, we considered ourselves engaged from the night we
met!" -- David O'Brien, 29, St.
Louis, MO
Caught in her web"Bobbi
and I didn't have the standard courtship; we met through an
online dating
site. We emailed back and forth virtually every day for a
month before we met. She was easygoing, warm and honest. When we
finally met, it was like meeting a long-lost friend and someone I'd
dreamed about at the same time. But it was those first conversations
and the fact that her open, accepting demeanor and her outrageous sense
of humor could shine through over email that made it obvious she must
be the one."
-- Mark Bowland, 31, Sacramento,
CA Breaking up is hard to do"Susan
and I had an eight-year long-distance relationship. We only got to see
each other about once every six weeks, and the relationship was turning
sour because of the distance. One weekend, we went to the beach with
some friends, and I guess I spent more time with my friends than with
her. On the ride back we fought about it. We arrived at my house, she
packed, and I took her to the airport. After she boarded the plane, I
realized how much I missed her; I had to have her in my life."
-- Brad Barber, 45, Mebane,
NC
Catching a wave of love"My
greatest passion is surfing. One day I offered to take my girlfriend to
a beginners' spot to help her learn. When we got to the beach, I was
itching to taste the 10-foot waves. She immediately recognized my
desire and said, 'How about if you go out and surf with your friends
while I prepare a picnic on the beach?'

I marveled at her generosity and knew
right then that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with
her."
I marveled at her generosity and knew
right then that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with
her."
-- Dan Jenkin, 33, Santa Cruz,
CA Lighthearted in love"Lisa
and I met 20 years ago at a high school party. Although I fell in love
with her at first sight, at the time I wasn't sure why. All I knew is
that there was something different about her. Now that we've been
married for more than 13 years, I know what it was that attracted me to
her: It's the way she looks at life. She has the ability to make
everything fun in her own goofy way." -- Phil Lehr, 36,
Bergenfield, NJ
Dance fever"Shortly
after coming off a nasty divorce, I was set up with Annette on a blind
date. We went to a club with a group of friends. I was disappointed
when she ended up dancing with a friend of mine all night. But when the
club was getting ready to close, I suggested we go out for one last
drink -- and the rest is history. She came home with me, and three days
later we were living together. We've been happily married for 10
years." -- Tom Phillips, 50, New
York, NY
She drove him wild"I
had been dating my girlfriend for six weeks when we decided to take a
day trip to Atlantic City. It was summertime, and what should have been
a two-hour trip turned into five hours because of terrible traffic.
Oddly enough, I wasn't annoyed at all. The conversation was so
stimulating, and she laughed at all my bad jokes! She was the girl for
me." -- Stephen Blumberg, 28, Great Neck,
NY
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