Dating Tips: Top 10 Alternatives for the Word "Boyfriend"
"Boyfriend" sounds so high school. But what DO you call the guy you're seeing?
By dating editor Jeanne Sager for YourTango.com Photo: iStockphoto.com/© Josh Hodge Updated: Sep 11, 2009
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Dating in high school is dramatic: He kissed her? I thought he liked me! Will he tell all his friends if we go to second base? If I ask him to the dance, does that mean we're dating? And if we're dating, is he my boyfriend?
As an adult you're more mature, but grown-up dating is fraught with it's own challenges: Why hasn't he called me back? When do I introduce him to my kids? When do we go from friend-with-benefits to dating? And if we're dating, is he my boyfriend? OK, maybe it's not so different from high school, after all.
One question certainly remains the same: what do you call the guy you've been seeing for the past few weeks? It's a question of status, but as an adult, it's also a question of word choice. Because, as Big asked Carrie in the "Sex and the City" movie, when you're both adults, isn't he a little old to be your boyfriend? It sounds so, well, high school.
In the spirit of maturation, YourTango has come up with 10 alternate names to call your man. Try these on for size.
#1. PartnerThe Good: There's no doubt that everyone's equal in this relationship.
The Bad: Are you dating or starting up a limited liability company?
#2. LoverThe Good: It's sophisticated, it leaves nothing to the imagination, and it's dramatic.
The Bad: We've got four words for you: "Granny, meet my lover..."
#3. ParamourThe Good: It's French, and they seem to know little bit about how to make love last (hello, kisses).
The Bad: Trying to explain to your family this doesn't mean he has a wife and 2.5 kids at home.
#4.Life HostageThe Good: No need to grip his sleeve at parties; you've staked your claim.
The Bad: Possessive much?
#5. ManfriendThe Good: You're finally dating a grown-up, good for you.
The Bad: He's retreating to his man cave with his man sack in tow right about... now.
#6. HoneyThe Good: It's sweet enough to eat, and doubles as a nickname appropriate in the bedroom and out.
The Bad: Mariah Carey called. You stole her line.
#7. FlameThe Good: Hot, hot, hot.
The Bad: All that's missing is a set of gold chains and a bad perm, and you're back in the seventies.
#8. BeauThe Good: It's old-fashioned romance at its best.
The Bad: Other than the fact that you sound like old Aunt Agnes, not much.
#9. EscortThe Good: No need to have "the talk" if you're not sure how into monogamy he is.
The Bad: Explaining you didn't pay this guy to sit at your table at your best friend's wedding.
#10. CompanionThe Good: Wherever you go, he goes, and he's happy to be along for the ride.
The Bad: You know who makes a good companion? Your dog.
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